For a nation watching, this Super Bowl was pretty exciting. But for me, a New England Patriots fan, the Super Bowl was really exciting! I grew up with the understanding that “our” New England teams are scrappy—we fight to the end. Never count out a victory. But even with this ingrained mindset, there is still no denying the resilience of each and every one of those players to stay focused and continually believe in victory in the face of the seemingly impossible.
Interestingly, the next day, much of the media static in light of this historic win consisted of jeers—aimed not at players, coaches, or commercials; but instead at halftime performer Lady Gaga. Her awe-inspiring aerial feats and her on-point singing and dancing paled in comparison to the Internet wildfire laser focused on criticizing her body. Her body, which danced, sang, and played the piano tirelessly to entertain a nation on live television for upwards of 20 minutes, was brutally picked apart. But in the end, she responded perfectly. “I heard my body is a topic of conversation so I wanted to say, I’m proud of my body and you should be proud of yours too.” With these words, she took the high road and offered a humbling lesson as she reminded her shamers, critics, and fans to love themselves. Lady Gaga practiced one of my favorite underutilized techniques of “be yours.” And with Valentine’s Day just a couple days away, this seems the perfect time to weave “be yours” back into your life. Yes, a part of Valentine’s Day is about giving to others. What if this year you added in a little giving to yourself? It may just be the inspiration you need to boost your health.
Yes, to “be yours” begins with taking care of yourself—the obvious and most basic self-care includes brushing teeth, washing face, combing hair etc. But take it a step further. How about reaching beyond that to what adds light to your life—reading a book, going to a movie, moving, meditating, whatever it is? Yes, to commit to yourself sometimes means putting yourself and your needs in front of the needs of others. This does not mean you’re being selfish. Quite the contrary, by helping yourself you are better able to help others. You know the drill where, before takeoff, flight attendants instruct us to put on our own oxygen masks prior to helping others—even our children. This analogy shows the logic behind the fact that our strength is needed to support the strength of others.
This week, release yourself from the endless cycle of draining yourself through sacrifice for others. Don’t skip the gym or fun with your friends—go without guilt. Even better, “be yours.” Love yourself a la Lady Gaga, flaws and imperfections and all. If this feels out of reach, consider what Coach Belichick said to his New England Patriots when they were down, 28-3 in the third quarter of the Super Bowl. Keep pushing. Keep trying. Don’t give up. It’s not over.
So come back for your Patriots-style, Lady Gaga-gracious, self-determined victory. Be yours. Check out our three tips to see how to make the shift.
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