There is an old adage that states “it is better to give than to receive.” Many of us practice this, but to an extreme. We spend more time and effort helping other people with their projects, plans, and goals than we spend on our own activities. In doing so, we fall out of balance in the give and take process: giving until we are depleted, but not letting others help us accomplish our own goals more effectively.
There is great power in learning to receive help and support from others. Receiving is different than taking. Receiving is asking, and then accepting with gratitude, the help that follows. Think how you feel when you are giving to someone who is open, excited, and grateful to receive your help. When you receive with grace, you benefit, and you also allow the giver to feel rewarded!
The next time you feel overwhelmed or overworked, practice asking for support and receiving it with grace and appreciation. Acknowledge that collaboration often breeds creative results—reach out to your colleagues and network for advice and counsel. Accept their gift of time and insight. You may be surprised how enthusiastic people are to help.
The ability to balance receiving and giving is a skill and a strength. Relax, open up, ask, receive, and succeed!
- Ask for what you need. Look at your to-do list and find a task that would benefit from outside assistance. Ask for help. Be specific, but create the space and opportunity for people to help and support you in their own ways.
- Receive with grace and gratitude. Let people know that you really appreciate their help. Give them the gift of feeling good about giving and see how much more they are willing to support you in the future.
- Receive more in order to give more. The more support and help you are willing to receive, the more energy you will have to be able to give to others. So if giving is important to you, start asking for and receiving help—you’ll find you have more to give!